What is a helpmate?... Part 2
So, hopefully since the last time that we've talked, you've been working through some of the necessary steps to do personal assessment, evaluating your personal strengths and weaknesses and positioning yourself to intentionally receive fresh revelation from God such that you grow in new strengths and abilities while pruning unfruitful areas of your life. As promised I wanted to share some key points for you to ponder relative to preparation in becoming a Helpmate to a spouse.
*Side note: For the sake of equality and clarity in the context of this blogpost, a Helpmate is not necessarily gender specific ( Because 'help' is not gender specific...and because its MY blog...LOL)) Now that we've gotten that taken care of...aside from workplace and ministry relationship and associations that have different boundaries and functions in our lives, I wanted to focus a bit more on marital relationships and the 'help' associated with that. Help is universal in that, we all need and desire the resources that cause our lives to flow a bit better and the kind of cooperation that aid and assist us in becoming better. As defined in Part one to this blogpost, to help is to do something that makes it easier for someone to do a job. As a spouse, a destiny partner, I would do well to be able to 'help' in three strategic areas of my companions life...lets talk about those areas.
Vision: Whatever area of ministry or marketplace that your destiny partner has been called to serve in should encourage you to grow in your ability to help them there. That doesn't mean that you necessarily have to be in the same field of business or ministry but we should strive to have the ability to help in causing that vision to come to pass, to grow, to develop and manifest into all that its supposed to be. As a wife I should desire the ability to help make the journey easier, cooperate with the process that ultimately means success for my entire family as my husband becomes more astute in his calling. As a husband, the love for her peace as well as her mental, spiritual and even physical well being should be a priority as it lines up with the family mission and vision and ensures a level of peace and stability in the home life as a whole.
Victory: Spiritual deliverance and growth requires the help of your destiny partner. The full responsibility of your journey belongs to you, however, the cooperation of your spouse can make or break your ability to grow at a consistent rate. Spouses can and should intercede and do warfare on behalf of the other which advances their personal efforts. The power of agreement is a mighty tool against the enemy.
"How could one have chased a thousand, and two put ten thousand to flight..." Deut. 32:30a AMP
Vanity: Physical presence does wonders in the fight against discouragement, accountability in health and wellness challenges, physical intimacy and even the encouragement to keep your appearance in tact in an effort to foster fresh feelings for your companion. (Start paying attention to this area as a single...trust me) Image is important to certain levels of success and don't you listen to anyone who tell you differently. We don't need to be consumed with the outward man, but the consistent maintenance of our physicality shows a great respect for our bodies as the temple of the Holy Spirit. Regard for how we present ourselves to the world, and represent our families says a LOT about how we honor the Spirit of God on the inside of us.
"Do you not see and know that your bodies are members (bodily parts) of Christ (the Messiah)" (1 Corinthians 6: 15 AMP)
Consider these fews points as you pursue purpose and maximize your season of singleness....